Today my son turns 16.

... I'll let the pause happen... I know, how can I have a 16 year old? haha

As I reflect on the last 16 years, I can't even remember who I was at that time. I can't even really relate to her.

I have changed so much and so much has changed in my life since then.

What I can relate to and what I remember is the growth of my son. I remember him 16 years ago, today, and how he showed up in this world. I remember who he was at 2, 5, 10, 12, and now 16.

I know the character he has developed.
I know the gifts that have shown up for him over the years.
I know the resilience he has shown again and again.
I know the kindness he shows others.
I know the wisdom and self-awareness he possesses way beyond his years.
I know the man he is becoming.

I couldn't be more proud.

And I was there beside him through it all.

I've heard it said that having a child is like living with your heart outside of you.

Maybe that's it, my heart was somewhere else. The memories followed the heart.

So, maybe it's ok that I don't remember who I was 16 years ago because everything did change. My heart lived outside of me from that day on. And my life became so much richer. I was beside him. And he is so amazing.

Because of him (and my daughter) I am a more complete person and a better friend, partner, and leader.

I'd take that deal any day.